What happens when being capable becomes proof that we are worthy? I explore the connection between Black women's strength, achievement, belonging and the exhausting work of trying to prove we are enough.
Life's Gumbo: I Have Absorbed Enough
There is a particular kind of tired that does not come from doing too much. It comes from absorbing too much. As I approach 50, I’m reconsidering how much of my life I’m willing to spend explaining my needs, carrying dysfunction and fighting for conditions that should not require constant negotiation.
Life's Gumbo: Baby, I’m T’ied | What Black Women Understood in the Deja Coleman Story
When Deja Coleman’s story broke, Black women heard more than exhaustion. We recognized what it looks like to keep functioning when your mind and body are asking for help. Her story raises a harder question: How often do we call Black women strong when what we really mean is that nobody came to help?